Well exams are ended and I am finally able to write a blog!!! Actually I had thought that I would share a story, which I have written, but I haven’t completed it.

Today I learnt a huge lesson & I just hope I remember it all my life.

A friend of mine has a very low self-esteem; no matter how much we try but v just cant get her to love herself. Anyways, today a professor screamed at her even though it wasn’t her fault (doesn’t that always happen to all of us??!!) Well as usual, she didn’t try explaining stuff and came mourning to me. Since I am the only person who really listens so… she started off ranting that why does everyone hate me so much and that why cant I ever do anything right. Well, I was very angry at that point because I hate people who don’t stick up for themselves and expect others to fight for them. Anyways, I blasted off… totally.. n when I blast.. well.. lets say.. u wud prefer a nuclear bomb. Actually I had been trying to tell her this for a long time but now it really disgusted me that after all this time, she had still the same old silly problems. So I said… that “y the bloody hell do u care about what others think. I don’t understand y ur so sorry for urself. I believe that the professor was right in screaming at u bcoz u just have no guts to stand up for urself.”

Well I said all that and I stormed off, had I turned around, I knew I would have seen tears in her eyes becoz now according to her even I had ditched her. I was brooding the whole day, becoz I realized that I shouldn’t have screamed at her like that. Anyways, a week went and I didn’t speak to her and neither did I bother asking whether she ever cleared the misunderstanding with the professor. Well, finally my conscience wouldn’t let me sit still and I mustered the courage to utter the word “Sorry”. I told her, that “ I am really sorry. I have no right to tell you how to live ur life.” Well then she smiled and told me that she had finally spoken to the professor. I also realized that the reason she was always so low was because of her family probs and at that moment I felt really hurt with myself.

We have absolutely no right to tell anyone how to lead their lives. If we ever want to convey something, there are two ways of saying it, either you scream and make urself heard or you be calm and patient and say it in a way that is firm but also not bossy. I just hope I remember this. Actually, I guess I never understood as to y people not have faith on themselves. Y are people either so over confident or not confident at all. I guess even I fall in one of these categories but the fact is that if u dont have faith in urself then who else will have faith in u?? After all… if u don’t love urself then how can u expect others to love u???